A survival kit
Ok, there you are, you managed to hit rock bottom, a state of ultimate broke and despair, a face to face with bankruptcy and depression.
Since problems usually come in bundled offers, destiny has treated you with a few more disappointments: your girlfriend now thinks you should be “good friends” while your actual buddies lost all their fingers and can’t pick up your calls.
You’re on your own.
Before considering options like suicide by gas or meth overdose, try these tips, they’re great when everything is falling apart.
Work out
Run, swim, do yoga and BREATHE BIG. Do whatever it takes to flood your system with fresh blood and oxygen.
There are good reasons why working out squashes depression.
Google it if you’re not convinced.
On top of that: you don’t need to think to work out, that’s great when you feel you have Mayo instead of a brain.
Look up!
Don’t look down, that’s what everybody does when depressed.
Look up.
Also: pump up your chest. Smile if you can. Remember your posture the last time you were feeling great (right before you checked your latest bank statement).
That’s no bs: position your body as if you were feeling good, your mind will follow (they’re connected, that’s why).
Watch South Park
Or whatever dumbest comedy works for you. Everything has been made fun of, that includes the kind of crap you’re going through.
Talking yourself out of bad feelings doesn’t work as well as laughing them out.
Here’s a good piece about being broke for instance:
Remember: that’s not forever
I don’t care if it sounds lame to say it, so I’ll say it again:
“This too shall pass”.
Think about all the disasters you experienced where you thought pain would crush you entirely…
What’s left of all that?
Nothing.
The same will hold true for this present situation.
Ride the blessing
Don’t believe you’re cursed, you’re not.
Hard times operate like purifiers: they shower away life’s cling-ons: unreliable people, crappy girlfriends (or boyfriends), jobs that you hated anyway.
They also cleanse your life of stale beliefs and help you gain actual knowledge on yourself.
Once the storm is gone, you’ll start a new life: you’ll be wiser and stronger, and you’ll know for sure who you can really count on.
Ride the blessing, you’re not on your own.
And if it’s an encouragement you need, you surely have mine :)
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Good advice – and very kind of you to to take the time to pass it on!
Thanks David, I did that list for myself as much as for everyone, hoping nobody needs to use it too often…
Merci Gael pour ces conseils, je partage l’idée du work out, à laquelle je citerai la cuisine, se mitonner un bon petit plat, cela vous ancre, c’est basique et puis avec un peu de chance c’est bon aussi. Et le jardin, faire son potager, planter des fleurs ou quitter ce satané roncier qui vous bouche la vue. On se connecte ainsi à la terre et selon la formule : on revient aux fondamentaux.
Par ailleurs dans ces moments j’essaie de ne pas me laisser sombrer.
Il ne s’agit pas de nier sa douleur avec des “Yes you can, come on!!”. Non c’est que parfois ces peines nous confirment dans cette fausse idée que tout, tout est de la merde, alors on se dit à quoi bon, et là, on s’appuie gentiment sur la tête pour couler un peu plus. On passe de la déprime à la dépression. Contre qui, quoi, passer sa douleur, sinon nous-même et l’on retarde d’autant le prochain sourire.
Merci, mec. C’est vrai, y a une mesure juste à trouver, la tension juste de la corde, j’imagine.
Mais la musique change tout le temps, donc c’est toujours une danse assez approximative, c’est ce que j’apprends a accepter.
“Look Up”. That really caught my attention. Great advice! Maybe the easiest and one of the best change of actions to do when you feel down. Thanks for making this list, I’ve been feeling kind of down lately. I’ll put this advice into action.
Thanks for letting me know what drew your attention, I’m also busy applying my own advice these days :(
Take care!